It is safe to say that all of us know someone who has been involved in a divorce, some of you have also been involved. Everyone in a divorced family is a victim, if for no other reason that they lost the future that they had hoped for.
I have a family member going through a separation and likely divorce right now, she is an abused spouse, abused by her soldier husband who suffered traumatic brain injury (PTSD) in his fifth combat tour. I know she doesn't want the divorce but she has to protect herself and the children, with prayers and God's help it will work out.
You bring up a good point that I often emphasize and elaborate upon. Just as my signature quote refers to peace in the broad sense I believe that peace in the specific sense as well can apply to marriage.
When there is discord in a marriage it does not by default imply that the marriage may be null. Rather, it implies that there is a division of one or both spouses from God's plan.
These 'failed', and 'broken' marriages are in essence NOT peace -some are even termed 'dead'. It is my contention that somewhere along the way in marriage ministry that pastoral peace making was substituted for truth and this is why we find ourselves where we are now where it seems the marriage bond takes a back seat to personal happiness and well being as defined by civil society e.g. psychologists.