I have the impression that the catastrophic failure of catechesis that Pope Benedict wrote about more than once may have contributed greatly to huge increase of Catholic marriages ending in divorce.
I do not want to be mean here but I do not understand how Catholics can say that marriages "end in divorce."
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Hi, Bryan...I do not see you as being mean...
However, what you are saying here is not at all in sync with this topic.
Btw, I really like your signature statement...LOVE SO AMAZING
I'm wondering how you live it in your everyday life...and do you in some way or another silently pass it on to the people you encounter?
That might make a great thread.
Hey Mary, thank you for the kind response. After my first confession a few years back, part of the penance I was to do was pray the prayer of St. Francis. I now pray that every day. I fall so short of achieving it but it is something I hope to continue to allow Him to bring me closer and closer to... being an instrument of His peace (not peace as the world understands it).
"Where there is darkness let me sow light"
I have seen several people whom I truly love infected by the "plague of divorce." They believe that their civil divorces "ended their marriages." For whatever reason our Blessed Lord has led me to sowing light on this dark lie.
As another poster on here has noted, the words we use are so very powerful. Hearing words can produce thoughts... and...
“Sow a thought, and you reap an act; Sow an act, and you reap a habit; Sow a habit, and you reap a character; Sow a character, and you reap a destiny”
I realize that it isn't the topic of this thread and I realize that many will tire of hearing it but we Christians must stop using words that indicate that civil divorce has the power to end a marriage. If the words "Catholic marriages ends in divorce" shows up on a thread about puppy dogs then it seems right to correct it on the thread for puppy dogs. For when this thought is sowed... we reap a destiny of a divorce culture and many Catholics will continue to look no different than the world while falsely believing that they will have a different judgment than the world.
How to "live it every day"..
I am no expert but I believe part of it is being a living witness to the Truth of the indissolubility of marriage. That one can, through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, remain faithful until death to a prodigal spouse.
Wearing your wedding ring is one way to "silently" witness to the truth that although someone has civilly divorced you, you are still married. It sometimes leads to questions, "I see you are wearing a ring, I didn't know you got remarried!" A perfect opportunity to witness to the Truth with words!! (Although I recently read some article about unmarried guys wearing wedding rings just to have better luck picking up girls!!)
Relating it back to this topic... I'm not sure why all this couldn't be part of getting two people "in sync" from the beginning. Sharing with them that although you have been trained by the best trainers in the world about what a Sacramental marriage means and although you have tested to be peas and carrots on the FOCUS test, you are still going to be targeted by the prowling lion, the father of all lies. He will still try to get you to think that you can separate what God joins. You cannot, however, and if your spouse one day thinks that he or she can, then it will be extremely difficult but you are to emulate the father with the prodigal son and be open to reconciliation if your spouse repents of the ways that are leading to destruction. You are to emulate our God in His relationship to Israel and always consider yourself to be the husband to your lost spouse. It will be difficult but it will make all the difference in the world... the next world that is;)
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