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My husband, chased me down for 1 year and made me say yes to him, he painted such a pretty picture of love and i took to him only for that reason. After marriage, I realised that he had lied about his life, bringing up, parents profession, their culture..almost everything he spoke about...surprisingly that didnt break my hear, i was just fascinated by how much he loved me.
Now i realize that does not exist, he is not intersted in spending any time with me, he constantly thinks only about his mom, and doesnt blink an eyelid to insult me to death for her sake. He doesnt want to do anything with me, when his mom is around, and never shares any intest in doing anything with me. I have fought, cried, and now i am at a stage praying for my death, i dont know how to recover from this situation. I have become a catholc, given up my language, friends, culture , and I am left with nothing now. Is there any road to recovery for me to look forward for a day. I feel God has abandoned me, and helped him all the way to achieve his will over me

Have you spoken with a priest about what is going on in your life?

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Rose West
"May God help us not to spoil His work" (Bl. Mother Theresa)

Dear Vimala.Gopi


I can understand the depth of your suffering .Hindu culture is very strong and all indians prize their language .Are you in India or outside India?If you are outside India It means that you are in a different culture.I am Goan(indian) and your surname suggests that you are south indian- tamil,keralite telegu or kannadda.Many of the people who have been outstanding in helping me have been south indian.I appreciate your rich culture steeped in learning
I do feel both sorry and very angry that your husband is mistreating you.
I do not know about things abroad,but domstic violence is not tolerated as in india

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Simon

Assuming that you are in India,please approach the appropriate church authorities for guidance
http://www.cbcisite.com/Women%20Commission.htm

Most archdioceses would have their own offices for such situations


again are you in India??

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Simon

vimala.gopi, hang in there! St Paul tells us from his experience of God; "The Lord is near. Dismiss all anxiety from your minds, Present your needs to God in every form of prayer and in petitions full of gratitude. Then God's own peace, which is beyond all understanding, will stand guard over your hearts and minds, in Christ Jesus." (Phil. 4:6-7)


God Bless,
Richard in San Francisco

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God Bless,
RichardW

vimala,

Please let me explain the above Bible Verse (Phil. 4:6-7) that I posted: In my own words, we must be willing to understand that praise and thanksgiving in all situations is an acknowledgement of God's sovereign power over the situation to deliver his children, not an endorsement of what is happening. What God desires from us is trust in situations beyond our understanding, so that in this trust and praise and thanksgiving for his love and presence and power, we can rest in peace in our hearts. When we have our backs to the wall and all seems hopeless, we learn to remember God who called us and praise Him for his way of deliverance. He is to be trusted in all siturations.


God Bless,
Richard

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God Bless,
RichardW

vimala.gopi,

I must move along now. When you return to read the reply to your message, remember that what I told you is God's secret. "christ in you."

"....the mystery that has been kept hidden for ages and generations, but is now disclosed to the saints. To them God has chosen to make known among the Gentiles the glorious riches of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory." (Colossians 1:26-27)

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God Bless,
RichardW

In India the has offices such as the one below
http://www.familyservicecentregoa.org/

http://www.familyservicecentregoa.org/c ... hp?type=ME

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Simon

JESUS MARY JOSEPH
MARY MY MOTHER 23 November 2009
Hello You Daughter of God Gopi --
My heart was torn when I read what you posted on Catholic Online Forum 19 Nov.
I also have suffered now almost two years from a terribly broken heart. I will not burden you with my details.
But I will assure you that God Loves you more than we understand. Do you know that Jesus experienced betrayal by his dearest and trust friends, the Apostles? Do you know that Jesus felt completely abandoned even by his Heavenly Father? (Jesus knew by faith this was not so. But every emotion in him felt that abandoned way.)
You wrote that you pray for death. Gopi, I understand completely what you say. I share this with you > During the past almost two years .. three separate times when the darkness had crushed me to the ground .. I knelt in our living room before a crucifix and I BEGGED God to take my life away. I wept better tears and cried out loud .. BEGGING God to end my earthly life.
The third separate time I did this I could know in my heart/mind that God was saying to me, "John, I don't want you to pray for death. It is not what I want. Don't ask me." And I still weep bitter tears at times but I do not ask for death.
In becoming a Catholic you left all the familiar and cultural things behind .. because you loved this man. This too causes my heart pain. I feel the pains you feel. I have, a friend, an Indian priest and he took me to an Indian houseblessing ceremony of his relatives (here in America, Pennsylvania). It was very beautiful. But I realize that your situation does not present you with such warmth and beauty.
In these dark and cold days you must take Jesus as your closest companion. He suffered a horrible death for you and because he Loves you. Offer your sufferings to him. Jesus will help you. You will yet suffer but Jesus will strengthen you and give you his Peace, deep down within your spirit.
Gopi, I will place your name on a list of special people .. people who carry heavy burdens and suffer and need help. And I will pray for you in special ways. This will not work magic. There is no magic with God. But there is LOVE with God. And this is what you must hold tight to, Jesus Christ Loving you and strengthening you.
I Bless you, Gopi, in the Name of Jesus and the Holy Spirit and the Father .. and Mary Mother of God. John (Allandnothing .. my User Name on COL Catholic Forum)

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You, God, my Infinite Lover .. Possess me utterly .. so that We Are One!

JMJ / MMM 091130 Monday
Gopi, Whom God Loves Without Limit --
I have prayed to the Holy Spirit, Gopi, how I might help Jesus touch your heart. You are suffering, Gopi, in a broken heart .. and this suffering is very, very great. I know. I believe Jesus wants to touch your heart, to let you FEEL his Love for you, in a prayer, printed here, for both of us to offer. The Holy Spirit will help me compose this special prayer for you and me.
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JESUS CHRIST, TRUE GOD, HANGING IN AGONY UPON THE CROSS, TO SHOW ME, PROVE TO ME, YOUR LOVE, GOD, FOR ME .. BE MERCIFUL, HELP ME, FOR I AM IN GREAT SUFFERING. YOU KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING AND WHY. I DO NOT. THE LOVE IN MY HEART HAS BEEN REJECTED, THROWN AWAY, AND I HAVE BEEN DESPISED. ONLY YOU, GOD, KNOW HOW MUCH THIS HURTS, HOW MUCH I AM CRUCIFIED.
ONLY YOU CAN HELP ME, JESUS. GOD, I NEED TO FEEL YOUR LOVE FOR ME. I AM NUMB WITH PAIN. I NEED TO FEEL YOUR LOVE FOR ME. TOUCH MY HEART. PLEASE TOUCH MY HEART.
I DO NOT ASK TO UNDERSTAND WHY THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME. I DO ASK AND BEG FOR STRONGER FAITH AND STRONGER TRUST AND STRONGER HOPE AND A GREAT INCREASE IN ME OF YOUR DIVINE LOVE.
YOU HAVE CREATED ME, NOT FOR THIS WORLD, BUT FOR HEAVEN, FOR COMPLETE AND EVERLASTING HAPPINESS AND JOY. YOU, GOD, IN JESUS CHRIST, ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN COMPLETELY FULFILL AND PERFECT THE LOVE MY HEART IS MADE FOR.
JESUS, GIVE ME THE STRENGTH AND COURAGE TO FOLLOW YOU, TO ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE PERMITTED TO HAPPEN TO ME IN ORDER OVER TIME TO BE OF GREAT AND LASTING BENEFIT TO ME AND TO OTHERS.
HAVE MERCY, JESUS, PLEASE. HELP ME. TOUCH ME. HELP ME TO SEE I AM MADE FOR YOUR LOVE. AMEN.///////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
Gopi, as soon as I send this e-mail to you and post this writing on the COL forum, I will kneel down and pray this prayer. As soon as you receive it, Gopi, I ask Holy Spirit to move you and that you too kneel down and pray this prayer.
I care, Gopi. The Trinity Cares. Jesus and Mary care. The whole Kingdom of Heaven care. We Love you.
John (John J Farren) Allandnothing

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You, God, my Infinite Lover .. Possess me utterly .. so that We Are One!