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Been there, done that. When our children were little I was Greek Orthodox and my husband was Catholic. As Kim said, no, you can't baptise in both. Baptism removes orignial sin and makes us children of God. Becoming part of God's family through baptism is an important decision that parents make for their children. You and your husband are going to have to make a choice. My husband and I were faced with that choice. We chose Catholic but I'm not going to address the why in this post. Instead I'm going to tell you how we raised our children and how we worshiped.
First, we both strongly believe that it is important for children to see their parents worship together. Especially now that we live in such a secular society. I attended Mass with my husband and children every week even though I was not Catholic. We also believe that worshiping seperatly (or even worse, one parent takes the kids to church while the other stays home or goes golfing) sends the wrong message to the children about the importance of God and church.
As a non-Catholic I made an effort to learn as much as I could about the Catholic faith so that I could help teach our children about their faith. I wanted to take an active role in this. At the same time I had no intention of converting and made that very clear. To this day I am grateful to the priests and friends who respected that and did not attempt to push me or pressure me to convert when I wasn't ready to hear of it.
Second, it would be very confusing for the children if you taught them conflicting beliefs. OK, there aren't that many conflicting beliefs between the Orthodox and the Catholics but there are a few. Communion will be an issue. The Orthodox do not allow you to receive communion in the Catholic Church, nor will they offer the Eucharist to a Catholic. The Catholic Church will allow Orthodox to receive and allow Catholics to receive in the Orthodox Church under certain conditions. You would have to get permission from the Catholic priest before doing that. Sound confusing? I haven't even touched upon the Catholic obligation to attend Mass on Sunday.
Trying to raise them in both religions will get complicated, unless you throw out the religion and only focus on the culture. That's what often happens when people try to raise children to two faiths. The end result is that the parents end up throwing out God and giving the children the easy things that are more secular than faith. And that would be a very bad idea for the children.
we would just really like to incorporate both religions into our life.
Raising them in one faith does not mean that you have to give up the culture and traditions of the other. There are some things that you can and should combine. For example, one Catholic tradition that I enjoyed bringing into my life as an Orthodox was the Advent Wreath. When our children were young one of their favorite Orthodox traditions was cracking the red eggs on Easter Sunday. As for culture, our Catholic children were raised with icons around the house. The Orthodox place a greater emphasis on saints days than Catholics do. I brought that into our home. I also brought a greater reverence for Holy Week than my husband was raised wtih. While my husbands Catholic tradition gave us beautiful prayers such as the rosary, the chaplet of divine mercy and novenas.
There are many things that you can do to introduce the children to the culture of both faiths while only raising them in one. As I said before, the most important thing is to present a united front to your children when it comes to teaching them about God.
I became Catholic when our children young. It was a personal decision that had nothing to do with my husband or children. If I hadn’t, I would still have attended Mass with my family and I would have helped teach our children about their Catholic faith. In today's society it is more important than ever to give our children a solid faith foundation. It's a lot easier to do that when both parents present a united front about faith.
I hope this helps,