My husband and I are both Catholic, but we were married outside of the Catholic Church. I am not allowed to take Communion since I was not married in the catholic church?
That is a question better asked of a priest in your own diocese than on an internet forum where you may get several answers from people (like me) who are not authorized nor have the expertise to answer the question.
But -- though you certainly don't have any obligation to explain to me and I expect no explanation -- I wonder why, if you are both Catholic, that you chose not to marry in the Church.
I will consider your position if stated with firm, well-thought-out, quiet reasoning. Hateful diatribe, ad hominem attacks and shouted rhetoric don't impress.