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Hello, all!

I was thinking about what to do for my bachelorette party (this coming week) and wanted to run an idea by the forum community. While my fiance is off on a dinner/show/casino/fishing trip for the weekend with his groomsmen, I was thinking about going to a convent or retreat centre alone to spend time with the sisters and get some spiritual direction. The main reason I thought of this was because I didn't want a cheap, trashy stagette (or the flip side, a boring one) and I wanted to be able to properly contemplate marriage and what it means. I don't think I can accomplish that drunk. Also, my friends are not allowed to stay out late and what kind of a bachelorette party ends at 11:00 P.M.? Anyway, is this a good idea? Has anyone had a bachelor/bachelorette party that was different than what a traditional one entails? Comments? Suggestions? Thanks.

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Pamela

I don't think a batchelorette party is necessary in the least, but love the idea of a personal retreat. I think it's beautiful.

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Rose West
"May God help us not to spoil His work" (Bl. Mother Theresa)

I see nothing wrong with going out to dinner with your friends and having some fun. They could get you some gag gifts. You don't have to get drunk, you can all be back at a decent hour, no need for the Chippendales, and no need to spend a lot of money. The next day you can pray for God's Blessing on your union. Your Fiancee is most likely enjoying himself with his friends. A balanced life requires some fun too as long as it does not lead to sinful behavior. That's my opinion.

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Pax et Bonum


Schultzz

I think BOTH would be good! Have some fun and then reflect somewhere.
I wish I had reflected more.

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Linda Marie Ann

What a great idea you have. Everyone should think of adapting this idea for their bachelors or bachelorette party. I think your idea is wonderful.

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Kim, M



"....abstinence and chastity, dispose man very much to the perfection of intellectual operation.” St Thomas Aquinas

Sorry I meant adopting not adapting.

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Kim, M



"....abstinence and chastity, dispose man very much to the perfection of intellectual operation.” St Thomas Aquinas

Thanks for the great input, everyone! I had everything planned out but unfortunately, it looks like I won't be able to go at this time. There's so much more to do than I thought and I have to prepare the apartment for an overnight guest coming for the wedding. Maybe after the wedding I can have a little getaway with the sisters but for now, my reflecting will have to be done at home. :S

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Pamela

That happens! Try to prioritize the remaining tasks between absolute musts and things that would be nice but completely unneeded. We were pretty happy in that only a few of the unneeded things didn't get done that last week.

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Rose West
"May God help us not to spoil His work" (Bl. Mother Theresa)

Pamela,

I don't think a bachelor/bachelorette party is in any way necessary...especially in the form that is often used today.

A retreat is a great idea.

Before I married, my friends and family had a very small party for me. It was more of a bridal shower, I guess. We had some dinner and cake. They gave me gifts and we enjoyed eachothers company. I think it's wonderful when a bride's friends and family can give her a celebration in honor of her transition from a single woman to a wife, as long as the celebration honors the vales of marriage.

My husband-to-be had a great time playing golf w/ his friends instead of a conventional bachelor party. He would have been horrified to have had any kind of drunken revelry. He really enjoyed just being w/ his friends and family too.

I'd like to see more men and women refusing to dishonor marriage w/ some of the things commonly done (or so I've heard) at these parties.

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Nora

"True freedom does not rest in being able to do whatever you want, but in being able to do whatever lifts you up towards God."

I love the retreat idea at a convent!

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angelica