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Hello!

I have a sensitive issue to share and was hoping I could get some advice here. I have always had a problem with self-esteem. For some reason, I have managed to connect feeling desired and attractive to sex. Whenever my husband does not want to make love for whatever reason (very tired, not in the mood, etc.), I take it personally and become very upset. Part of me really misses being pursued so much, like back when we were first dating. I am somewhat old-fashioned and feel that he should be the one to initiate more. So whenever I do and receive a NO, I feel devastated. Because of NFP, there are only so many days a month available and I feel like taking advantage of those days. I feel like I am being selfish but I just feel rejected when this happens. I don't know what to do to be more patient. Please help!


Crystal

Crystal,

The title you placed on the thread says it all. This is indeed a very touch subject, and a very important one. Issues with intimacy can be a significant source of marital discord. However, in my judgment, this isn't a subject that would be appropriate to discuss on an Internet forum, one that your husband might read and one that minors and children do browse. Please do consider looking for a Catholic counselor who can assist you in these difficult times. You are in my prayers.

Dean
COL Forum Staff