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All,

I surely hope that your wives and husbands are illiterate and that none of your friends frequent these Forums.

You have your location as "Somecity, PA" in your profile. You mention in a post that your husband is 24 yrs old and that you are 22. In another post you say that you go to St. Giovanni's Catholic Church in the Diocese of Pittsburg and teach at the local Catholic school or work at Central Hospital or something like that.

You talk about your spouse's spiritual life as if they were a puppet instead of a real person. The man/woman who works at the next desk/table to yours reads the messages here and thinks "That sounds like so and so".

Watching a few more messages from you they realize that it not only "sounds like" but that it "is so and so". They mention to your spouse that they saw the discussion and they hope that things "are working out". After all, as good friends they are "concerned".

Spouse reads the messages (they really are not stupid or illiterate). You now have worse problems than you ever thought possible.
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DO NOT discuss the personal problems of your marriage with complete strangers. The Internet is NOT a Confessional nor a Psychologist's couch. THINK!

P.S. Using nothing more than what was stated anonymously on the Forum, I have, in the past, tracked down the real name, address, phone number and husband's name of an individual. It is not all that difficult. A determined person can do it with relative ease.

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Tony Liotta

Jesus is weeping again.
"No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God." (Lk 9:62)
"No one can serve two masters; ...... You cannot serve God and mammon", (i.e., money, wealth, prosperity). (Matt. 6:24)

Are you aware of any Catholic forums which do allow the discussion of marital issues? If so, could you let us know the Web addresses for them? It sure would be nice to discuss difficult marital issues with others who hae an understanding of the profound respect that Catholics tend to have for the permanence of marriage. Thank you.

Sonia

A Catholic forum which allows the discussing of personal issues wouldn't be the substitute for a therapist or confessor. It would be a way to get helpful information and ideas and names of books from others who are farther along the path we are on. I respect that this forum's policy is to not allow the discussing of personal issues but am just wondering if there is such a forum. Thank you.

Sonia

Sonia,

No. They would not be "Catholic" if they did.

We allow full discussion of "marital problems" here. What we do not allow is discussion of persons who can be identified. That would include such as:

My husband
My wife
My mother
My sister
My next door neighbor
Etc.

It is entirely possible to discuss any "marital problem" without ever referring to an individual person. It takes a bit of forethought at times but it certainly can be done. It is done in Religion Classes such as RCIA and Catechism every day, and, here on this Forum, almost every day. It is called "hypothetical". (If I remember correctly, it is also called "anonymous 3rd person".)

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Tony Liotta

Jesus is weeping again.
"No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God." (Lk 9:62)
"No one can serve two masters; ...... You cannot serve God and mammon", (i.e., money, wealth, prosperity). (Matt. 6:24)

Addenda, E.G.:

Many years ago I knew a young girl who entered marriage as a very selfish person, by her own admission. She was even jealous of the attention her husband gave to their own children. She worked on the problem constantly.

I was present when this girl died at the age of 30 and heard the last two coherent things she said to her husband before death came.

"Who has my children?"

"I love you".

What a wonderful way for anyone to die. She was prepared to meet God on His Terms without a trace of selfishness left in her.
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Questions:

1. Who was she?

2. What was her relation to me, if any?

No, don't guess. Answer from the data given above.

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Tony Liotta

Jesus is weeping again.
"No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God." (Lk 9:62)
"No one can serve two masters; ...... You cannot serve God and mammon", (i.e., money, wealth, prosperity). (Matt. 6:24)

Tony,

That was your wife!

I know because I've read other posts of yours. Which of course only serves to prove the point of this thread.

However, in your case you are building her up. And there is slim chance of such a post getting back to her. So you're excused no?

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Steve J.

Careful, there, Steve, lad - not to get too cocky.
Around here we hold the late Mrs. Liotta in only slightly less esteem than we do our beloved Tony himself.

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Laura
Soli Deo Gloria
http://lauralowder.wordpress.com

"Since I cannot altogether live the life I would wish for, I must make my actual life better and more fruitful for God and for the souls who have been entrusted to me." Elisabeth Leseur, October 2, 1905

Gee wiz Tony. What a buzz-kill.

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Yours In Christ, Elizabeth

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Bob C

What does 'bump' mean on this forum?
If I had marital problems I'd talk to my wife, if of course I was married in the first place, which I may or may not be.

"Bump" indicates that someone wants a thread or post to be brought back to the active topics.

Meanwhile, not everyone has your restraint, and quite honestly, sometimes folks want a sounding board. The purpose of this thread is to point out that this is a really bad place to divulge personal information because we are so large and widespread at COL. It would be entirely too easy for someone who knows someone to say something hurtful to our spouse.

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Rose West
"May God help us not to spoil His work" (Bl. Mother Theresa)

And to take that thought even a bit further:

There is no privacy and very little regulation on the internet. Anything said here can be intercepted by anyone who has access to a computer with internet capabilities.

So it is not a good idea to lay one's problems out before the world in too specific a fashion.

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In Christ,

Jim B

I will consider your position if stated with firm, well-thought-out, quiet reasoning. Hateful diatribe, ad hominem attacks and shouted rhetoric don't impress.

Thank you Rose West for being so thoughtful and pointing this out to me.
Neilos