Were there hopes and dreams he used to speak of, that are forgotten now? Are there parts of his personality you've known, that seem to have gone to sleep
The only hope and dream he ever had was to play football. He did that.
Strangely enough, all the other things he is doing seem to fall into place with who he has kind of always been.
He has thousands of dollars in the bank because he is a tightwad. Not because he got responsible out of nowhere.
When he was young, my husband once found a loose floorboard in his room full of money. My husband thought he was dealing drugs or something. It was every Christmas, birthday, First Communion dollar ever given to him. In the meantime, he never went out because he was always tired from practice. He was able to save every penny of his paychecks for almost the last year because he lived with my parents and they wouldnt take money and he just did all the outside work and chores that my dad was no longer able to do, in exchange for rent.
He wants to buy a house and that kind of fits because when he was younger he treasured playing catch with my husband and hanging out. He always brought his friends here to hang out. He was always kind of a homeboy kind of kid.
He is still a slob though, so I wonder how that house will look.
I know that jumping out of airplanes and white water rafting and doing crazy stuff is not paramount to a full and healthy and happy life, it just seems like he should be wanting to do that.
He still kind of immature. He asks funny questions about marriage. He wants to know if he should have a joint checking account? Who should pay the bills? etc.. He weighs things like....is it cheaper to buy your own beer and pay for the football channel on cable, or hang out with friends at the bar and get out and watch football and count that as a night out. For crying out loud, just go out and think later.
Maybe I just need to get used to all of it. I dont know what I would ask of him or want for him otherwise. He just seems young.